I have always tried to be healthy and in shape. I was an athlete in high school and even afterwards I was still pretty active. I ate fairly decent, but not the best. Fast forward to adulthood and kids, I never lost my passion but it did take a back seat. I always knew it was still in there, just didn’t know how or when it would rise to the surface again. Until, my second marriage and having a blended family started to seem impossible to handle.
You see I don’t have a testimony of losing a large amount of weight or having a physical health scare. I have one on more of an emotional and mental level. During the transition of getting married and blending our families, this started to get stressful. We planned and talked and prepared as much as we thought we could, but you cant plan, prepare or talk through how another person will react until that person reacts. We thought we had the tools to help us, but nothing could have prepared us for the situations that we were about to face and boy did we face them, they hit us right in the face!
We were not prepared at all! Nor did we understand why these things were being said and done. Let me tell ya folks, we are as laid back and as simple as they get. We live a very simple life that we love. Sure to some degree we spoil our kids, but we don’t live a life of big luxury and that’s because we choose not to. So, why? Why would anyone want to destroy what we have? Well, I’ve learned something in these forty-one years of my life and that is, misery loves company! Not that we should ever excuse people or allow people to treat us poorly, but at least we can know that it has nothing to do with us.
Back to the being healthy part, during this time in our blended family I needed an escape. Not like an escape like leaving my family and jet off to a private island and just send postcards type of escape (now that I’m writing this maybe I should have looked into this, lol), but something to do to get me out of the house so I’m not suffocating under all the negativity. So, I chose the gym! I needed my outlet, my happiness back, my own space, and something that I could control. This is when I decided that my health was the most important thing in my life. No I’m not the fittest person ever and yes I have days that I don’t make good choices or workout, but the end goal is to be as healthy as I can be for me.
I am now more positive with what we went through as a blended family and having people that seemed to want to make all of our lives unhappy, see above with the misery loves company. It broke us down and forced us to dig deep and become different people for each other and ourselves. I found my happiness again and my drive to want to live a healthier life. Now, I eat cleaner than I ever have and do some form of activity almost daily. It has become a lifestyle now and I will never go back or let anyone take it away from me. It has opened doors for me that I never thought I would be able to do or to have the confidence to do them. I am a personal trainer at my gym and love every day that I get with my clients. It doesn’t even feel like work!
Maybe I should write a thank you letter to the people that worked so hard to destroy our family because they are what gave me the drive early on to put in the work that was needed for all of us. I don’t do it because of them anymore, I do it because of me and for me.
That is my testimony and how I decided to live my life for me and for a healthier version of me. Blended families are hard, harder than anyone can even describe to you. If you are dealing with blended family issues (or any issues in life) and need an escape I highly recommend finding a healthy outlet or jet off to that private island, but I would love an invite for the later one!